My 23 for 23

Each year, instead of a New Year's resolution, I create a bucket list for the year. Some of the items on the list are easier to check off than others, and I have yet to complete a full bucket list before the year is up. Regardless, it helps to keep me from falling into the …

Healing…with a side of grief

If you haven't read the previous post, The cost of healing, it's probably best you go back and read it before going any further. If you have, welcome back! I'm about to say the word trauma about half a million times in this post, so sorry, not sorry in advance. The first one to comment …

The cost of healing

I recently became the support person for someone struggling with mental health. Now I won’t tell you who or what or why because that’s their story to tell. What I will tell you is that it pushed me to seek therapy to be the best support person I could possibly be. Little did I know …

Begin Again

Much like a computer, occasionally, life will require a reset. The downside of course being that life isn’t quite as obvious as the computer, flashing a big, bold, pop up saying, “Restart to continue”. Unfortunately, things tend to get really messy before it’s that obvious. As much as we’d all like to think we will …

My 22 for 2022

Wow. It has been 22 long months since I sat down at my computer to write. I actually stopped paying for my site because it had been so long (so back to basic old wordpress)! Somehow the number 22 seems to pop up in my life quite often, so I'm feeling pretty good about this …

The V Word

The V Word.   No. Not the v word you were probably thinking this was about.   However, if I chose to confide in you about just how uncomfortable my v word was in these too tight yoga pants, how would you respond? I’d hope you’d say something like, “Ouch, that does sound painful. I …

Catch up, vacation, and the wrath of PTSD…

The other day I got the renewal notice for my website and I realized that I have only published two posts in 2019. Both of those posts were done in the first week of January. My 19 for 2019 - Which I’ve accomplished 3 ½ of the 19 things on the list (go me!) and …

Just keep eating!

Have you ever felt so horribly awful that you were willing to put your face on just about any cold surface you could find, never mind the amount of germs on said surface? (A few college nights come to mind anyone?) Well…that was me the other day. I’ll be sure to keep you updated on …

My 19 for 2019

I mentioned before how I wasn’t really a resolutions kind of person. If I’m going to make a change, I’m going to make it. Even if my major change just so happens to coincide with that time of year. However, I do feel like making “bucket lists” are a great way to remind yourself to …

New Year, New Journey

2018 was easily my favorite year. The journey I took during this past year has been everything I needed it to be and more. It was the year I finally found myself, the year I found my incredible other half, the year I tried new things, bought a car, moved out on my own, started …

How do you find love on…

Truth be told, this isn’t what I had planned on writing about first for my “new blog.” However, a sweet friend of mine asked me a question yesterday, and my brain drove me crazy last night thinking of all of the things I have to say on the subject.   “How do you find love …

You are my new dream

Have you ever watched a talent show where the performer gets a standing ovation, or all 4 judges fight to have them on their team, or the opening act at a concert is amazing and you find yourself thinking “Wow! How will they follow that up?” Hey! It’s Courtney, remember me? I’ve been over here …

A red lipstick kind of girl

Ever wonder why red lipstick is the best and most popular? It stands out with every event, outfit, and every type of lips. Even with all colors of hair. The lipstick that easily shows on your teeth, or on a glass that you’ve just drank from, and even on a cheek you’ve kissed. Apply the …

Trust the Journey

My absolute favorite show is How I Met Your Mother. There’s so many good lessons throughout the series, so many good quotes, and so much symbolism. I have always loved this show, but I love it even more lately. This show teaches us to love the journey, that every little thing that happens to us, …

To the man I finally give my heart to…

  This post has been on my mind for quite some time. I knew I wanted it to be my next post, I just wasn’t ready to sit down and write it just yet. Well, recent events have pushed me to finally sit down and do it.   Entering into a relationship after surviving a …

Wait…so nice guys do exist?!

You know that saying? “Nice guys finish last.” I feel like that’s probably pretty true, at least for me. I swear I pushed away every nice guy that ever had eyes for me. You want to know what? I regretted it. Every. Single. Time. I remember each of their names too. There was Tim, Kyle, …

GUEST POST: An open letter to my soon to be Kindergartner

An Open Letter To My Soon To Be Kindergartner: The other day, your mom sent me a picture of you sleeping peacefully in your car seat. She sends me pictures of you and your little brother all the time. But this one in particular hit me hard. You see, you’ll be starting kindergarten soon.   …

Old habits die hard

Disclaimer: This post is not about Bachelor #9. As excited as I am to tell you about him (because y’all, he’s a good one!) there’s a chapter I need to close first before we can move on, and that’s the one about Anna.   I came across an article the other day. It was from …

So this is what rock bottom feels like…

Since my outlook on dating was changing, I got to thinking it was finally time to give Tinder a rest. I read online that Tinder has something like 50 million users. Clearly my soulmate isn’t one of those 50 million (Or is he?)  so it’s time to move on with my life.  Although Tinder is …

What I’ve learned, a child’s perspective, and some of my favorite messages!

I spent the last 3 months of 2017 living the beginning of my first ever dating journey. I laughed, I cried, and I learned a whole fucking lot about myself, and dating in general. I started this blog because everyone was constantly asking me about my dates. Everyone seemed so intrigued by it. (Especially the …

I drink champagne now part 2

I was late to pick up the kid. (Mom of the year here, remember?) To be fair, this was the first time I was ever late to pick her up. Sometimes you’ve just gotta take that extra five minutes for yourself and have a damn romantic moment in a parking lot! She gave me a …

I drink champagne now

My friends kept telling me things like, “You’ll find him when you stop looking.” or “The right one will come when you least expect it.” So I decided I was going to least expect meeting him at the grocery store, the library, the donut shop, the mall, the bank, the hardware store, and at the …

Seems like you have something to work on personally…

Fresh off of the Hans heartbreak, I briefly considered giving up dating. Was I even ready for it? Did this whole Hans thing prove that I needed more time to be single? I could take a break for a while, refocus on myself, and come back to dating in a few months. That’s the logical …

The intentional “Super Like” part 2

While most of my friends were ready to sign me up for a psych evaluation, I was getting some encouraging advice from one of them. She told me all about how her and her now husband had met online. They too did the long distance thing, although their distance was much farther. They were both …

The intentional “Super Like”

This whole dating thing was getting kind of boring. Things weren’t going well with #3, and I wasn’t really messaging with anyone on Tinder either. When you match with someone, they show up at the top of your screen. Once you start messaging with a match, they appear down below that. I had 40 matches …

Six months in and it’s Christmas

I hate to disappoint you, but this isn’t about Bachelor #4. I’ve been feeling some type of way this week, and writing is therapy (since therapy is expensive) so I’ve decided to get it out. I’m six months in y’all. SIX MONTHS into this new life. I fully understand that to a lot of you …

I’ll keep this one short…

For those of you that don’t personally know me, I should tell you that I’m a total dork. I’m obsessed with all things Disney (Yes, I rock those leggings),  I’m not afraid to do embarrassing things (especially when it means embarrassing my kids), and I give zero fucks when I’m belting out some of the …

Finding the goddess within

People have asked me, “Didn’t you know Tinder was a hook-up app?” Yes. Yes, I totally did. The whole point in joining Tinder was just to make a small baby-step into the scary world of dating. I wasn’t ready to pay for any sites (what I did pay for is funnier) because I wasn’t looking …

They are single for a reason ladies…

If you’ve never had the joy of perusing Tinder I’ll tell you how it works. It’s a pretty simple concept; it’s a dating app that allows you swipe left to say no, right to say yes, and up to “Super Like.” If you swipe left you never have to see their creepy face again. If …

Buy a new bra and throw yourself out there!

I read this quote the other day that said “Dating in your 30s is like going to the dump and looking for the least broken and disgusting thing.” I honestly couldn’t have put it better myself. I can’t speak for what it’s like to date in your 20s, because I spent my glory days trapped …